Scenario#1 Consent Three Basic Ideas
A basic definition of consent is that it’s a clear, ongoing, enthusiastic, agreement among all parties involved in a particular sexual activity.
But we can expand that definition to challenge how we think about consent, whom it applies to, and how to practice it in our daily lives. Here are three ideas to keep in mind about consent…
First: Consent applies to everyone.
Second: Consent doesn’t change based on the gender id, he sexual orientation of the people involved.
Third: Consent starts before sex.
SCENARIO#2 CONSENT IN RELATIONSHIPS
It can be easy to think of consent as something that needs to happen between strangers, or people hooking up for the first time. But consent is still needed for people who are in relationships…
SCENARIO#3 CONSENT AS ONGOING AND SUBJECT TO CHANGE
We know that it’s essential to get consent before initiating sexual activity. But what if you get consent for one thing, and then want to do more? Or, what if the other person changes their mind?…
SCENARIO#4 CONSENT IS COHERENT
So, it’s not uncommon: we drink a little, get buzzed, and then feel frisky. But how does alcohol, drugs, and other situations play into the topic of consent?…
SCENARIO#5 WHAT CONSENT IS NOT
A standard definition of consent is that it is a continuous, mutual, sober, affirmative agreement to engage in sexual activity. But what are some things that consent is not?…
SCENARIO#6 CONSENT IS NOT A CHALLENGE
If you’re making sexual advances toward someone, and they’re hesitating or otherwise saying “maybe,” that isn’t an invitation for you to “try harder…”
SCENARIO#7 CONSENT IS NOT OWED
Say you’re out with someone, and you buy them drinks or pay for their dinner, or maybe you’re just a nice person and think they should be attracted to you… that doesn’t mean they’re required to have sex with you…
SCENARIO#8 CONSENT EVERY TIME
If someone consents to sexual activity with you, that means they’re consenting at that time. But it’s not a free ticket. It doesn’t automatically mean they’ll want to get sexy with you the next time…
SCENARIO#9 DOES YES ALWAYS MEAN YES
Some people define consent as “yes” means “yes.” But there can still be cases when someone might say “yes,” and it doesn’t necessarily qualify as consent…
SCENARIO#10 CONSENT TALKING ABOUT IT
Consent is mandatory, and the cornerstone of sexual activity. Without it, you’re committing a crime. So, it’s essential to get consent before initiating sexual things, but what if the thought of verbally asking for it just sounds… awkward, or unrealistic. Often, we might think about just going for it and seeing if the person resists…