Scenario #1: Consent—Three Basic Ideas

A basic definition of consent is that it’s a clear, ongoing, enthusiastic agreement among all parties involved in a particular sexual activity.

But we can expand that definition to challenge how we think about consent, whom it applies to, and how to practice it in our daily lives. Here are three ideas to keep in mind about consent…

First: Consent applies to everyone.

Second: Consent doesn’t change based on the gender or the sexual orientation of people.

Third: Consent starts before sex.

To learn more about NewPoint’s Consent Rewind Series for your organization,

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SCENARIO #2: CONSENT IN RELATIONSHIPS

It can be easy to think of consent as something that needs to happen between strangers or people hooking up for the first time. But consent is still needed for people who are in relationships…
SCENARIO #3: CONSENT AS ONGOING AND SUBJECT TO CHANGE

We know that it’s essential to get consent before initiating sexual activity. But what if you get consent for one thing and then want to do more? Or what if the other person changes their mind?
SCENARIO #4: CONSENT IS COHERENT

So, it’s not uncommon: we drink a little, get buzzed, and then feel frisky. But how do alcohol, drugs, and other situations play into the topic of consent?
SCENARIO #5: WHAT CONSENT IS NOT

A standard definition of consent is that it is a continuous, mutual, sober, affirmative agreement to engage in sexual activity. But what are some things that consent is not?
SCENARIO #6: CONSENT IS NOT A CHALLENGE

If you’re making sexual advances toward someone and they’re hesitating or otherwise saying “maybe,” that isn’t an invitation for you to “try harder.”
SCENARIO #7: CONSENT IS NOT OWED

Say you’re out with someone and you buy them drinks or pay for their dinner, or maybe you’re just a nice person and think they should be attracted to you… that doesn’t mean they’re required to have sex with you.
SCENARIO #8: CONSENT EVERY TIME

If someone consents to sexual activity with you, that means they’re consenting at that time. But it’s not a free ticket. It doesn’t automatically mean they’ll want to get sexy with you the next time.
SCENARIO #9: DOES YES ALWAYS MEAN YES?

Some people define consent as “yes” means “yes.” But there can still be cases when someone might say “yes” and it doesn’t necessarily qualify as consent.
SCENARIO #10: CONSENT—TALKING ABOUT IT

Consent is mandatory and the cornerstone of sexual activity. Without it, you’re committing a crime. So it’s essential to get consent before initiating sexual things. But what if the thought of verbally asking for it just sounds awkward or unrealistic? Often, we might think about just going for it and seeing if the person resists…

Scenario #1: Consent—Three Basic Ideas

First: Consent applies to everyone.

Second: Consent doesn’t change based on the gender or the sexual orientation of people.

Third: Consent starts before sex.

To learn more about NewPoint’s Consent Rewind Series for your organization,

please contact us here.

SCENARIO #2: CONSENT IN RELATIONSHIPS

SCENARIO #3: CONSENT AS ONGOING AND SUBJECT TO CHANGE

SCENARIO #4: CONSENT IS COHERENT

SCENARIO #5: WHAT CONSENT IS NOT

SCENARIO #6: CONSENT IS NOT A CHALLENGE

SCENARIO #7: CONSENT IS NOT OWED

SCENARIO #8: CONSENT EVERY TIME

SCENARIO #9: DOES YES ALWAYS MEAN YES?

SCENARIO #10: CONSENT—TALKING ABOUT IT