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A basic definition of consent is that it's a clear, ongoing, enthusiastic, agreement among all parties involved to a particular sexual activity.

But we can expand that definition to challenge how we think about consent, whom it applies to, and how to practice it in our daily lives. Here are three ideas to keep in mind about consent…

It can be easy to think of consent as something that needs to happen between strangers, or people hooking up for the first time. But consent is still needed for people who are in relationships…

We know that it’s essential to get consent before initiating sexual activity. But what if you get consent for one thing, and then want to do more? Or, what if the other person changes their mind?

So, it’s not uncommon: we drink a little, get buzzed, and then feel frisky. But how does alcohol, drugs, and other situations play into the topic of consent?

A standard definition of consent is that it is a continuous, mutual, sober, affirmative agreement to engage in sexual activity. But what are some things that consent is not?

If you’re making sexual advances toward someone, and they’re hesitating or otherwise saying “maybe,” that isn’t an invitation for you to “try harder.”

Say you’re out with someone, and you buy them drinks or pay for their dinner, or maybe you’re just a nice person and think they should be attracted to you… that doesn’t mean they’re required to have sex with you…

If someone consents to sexual activity with you, that means they’re consenting at that time. But it’s not a free ticket. It doesn’t automatically mean they’ll want to get sexy with you the next time…

Some people define consent as “yes” means “yes.” But there can still be cases when someone might say “yes,” and it doesn’t necessarily qualify as consent…

Consent is mandatory, and the cornerstone of sexual activity. Without it, you’re committing a crime. So, it’s essential to get consent before initiating sexual things, but what if the thought of verbally asking for it just sounds… awkward, or unrealistic. Often, we might think about just going for it and seeing if the person resists…